What you do in the moments after a “failure”, whether you look at it as a learning experience or a miserable event, will determine how you are perceived. No one will remember how many times you fall if you get back up and keep going each time. They will only remember the fight you have in you, how passionate you are and how much drive you have to keep moving forward.

Not to give too much importance to how others perceive you because our self-perception is all that should matter, right? Should is the operative word here, because it is natural to be embarrassed about a misstep and be concerned about how others see you. This is also a time when we look at ourselves and decide if we are worthy of love in that moment or scorn.

Being gentle with ourselves in times of disappointment is important, but how do you do it? Here are 4 easy ways to come back from failure.

  1. Give yourself time to process the loss. If you lost a race, didn’t get the job you were vying for, lost out on an audition, feel the feels, don’t get lost in it, but do allow yourself to mourn the loss. Then pick yourself up by your bootstraps and try again.
  2. Don’t make excuses for the failure. Own it, know what you did well and what needs work and say outright – “I will do better next time.”
  3. Those who have succeeded have always failed first. Let every event be a learning experience. What did I do well? What could use a little tweaking before the next time I try the same thing? What needs to be entirely reworked in order to be ready for my next attempt? Learning is what will keep you moving forward.
  4. Know that you will come back stronger than you were before. Take the lessons you learned about why the last outcome was not what you wanted and use them to boost you into the realm of success. You are the only barrier to your own success.

Keep learning, keep growing and keep moving forward.

Manifest your greatest desires and do the work to get there.

Thanks for taking this journey with me!
Rachele